This book on mortality can provide insights on living a healthy, fulfilling life and prioritizing what truly matters.
Although life presents limitations, such as the 24-hour day, 365-day year, and a finite number of years, writer Oliver Burkeman encourages pursuing one's goals.
A former journalist and time management researcher, Burkeman publishes a twice monthly newsletter on topics such as productivity, mortality, the power of limits, and building a meaningful life. He is also the author of the New York Times bestselling self-help book, "Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals."
"Meditations for Mortals," his latest book, examines how we can turn our limitations into advantages in life.
Being human comes with limitations, as our list of things we want to accomplish in life is likely longer than what we'll actually achieve. We'll always be vulnerable to unforeseen disasters or distressing emotions.
He writes that giving up the unsuccessful struggle to do everything allows you to focus on a few important things.
His book emphasizes the importance of accepting constraints and maximizing the use of available time.
How to embrace limitations and focus on what is actually possible
1. You can face either the consequences of doing or not doing
In every situation, there will always be consequences, as Burkeman points out: "Being finite means that every decision has repercussions, as you can only choose one path and must deal with the aftermath of not choosing any of the others."
When making a decision you're excited about, such as accepting a job offer, it often involves turning down other enticing offers or leaving behind a cherished role.
Burkeman doesn't criticize you for not making choices; instead, he motivates you to see the consequences of your decisions as a means of gaining control over your choices.
"Unfortunately, we never experience freedom from limitations, but we can have freedom to examine the trade-offs," writes Burkeman.
2. Befriend what scares you
Instead of avoiding what you fear, Burkeman suggests embracing it by befriending it.
He suggests that facing the situation is the only way to address it.
Befriend what scares you, as advised by Zen monk Paul Loomans, as referenced in Burkeman's book.
"According to Burkeman, finding the least intimidating approach to tackle the situation or seeking assistance from someone else are two possible ways to begin accepting the reality of the situation emotionally."
3. Do things 'dailyish'
Burkeman advises that working towards a larger goal through small steps daily is a great practice, but it's important not to become too focused on achieving success every single day.
Striving for a "dailyish" routine is a more resilient approach to maintaining consistency, rather than feeling like missing a day means falling off the wagon.
"According to Burkeman, while five times per week is considered dailyish, doing something twice per week does not meet the criteria. However, in busy periods, three or four times per week may be sufficient to count as daily. This means that you are still putting some pressure on yourself to achieve more."
The goal is not to strive for perfection every day, but to have the rules serve life, as Burkeman suggests.
4. Set quantity goals
Burkeman suggests that sometimes prioritizing quantity over quality can be beneficial when setting goals. By focusing on the frequency of working towards a goal, you can achieve more progress, even if the quality of your output may not be as high.
Burkeman suggests that a quantity goal for writing a book may involve freewriting for 10 minutes without stopping until the timer goes off. It's okay to write slowly as long as you use the full 10 minutes.
When you're concerned about the quality of your work, you may sometimes avoid working on a project altogether.
"By setting a quantity goal, you gain control over your output," Burkeman argues. "Instead of aiming for quality, you have certainty of production."
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