Ivy League sociologist advises against saying this 4-word phrase to kids for success and well-being.

In his upcoming book "Inspire: The Universal Path for Leading Yourself and Others," sociologist and Columbia Business School professor Adam Galinsky aims to reduce the harm caused by seemingly harmless comments.

One of Galinsky's areas of focus is the advice parents should and shouldn't give to raise successful, well-adjusted children.

In an interview with CNBC Make It, he stated that a commonly used remark can significantly impact a child's confidence.

"The phrase 'I'm disappointed in you' may seem motivational, but it can be damaging to kids," he remarks.

When parents use it to correct behavior, saying "no" can actually cause the opposite effect.

According to Galinsky, it is not beneficial to instill kids with a sense of shame, as it can be unproductive.

'Shame leads to avoidance'

According to Galinsky, shame hinders critical thinking and problem-solving, while guilt motivates children to find solutions.

He states that repairing is the outcome of guilt, while shame frequently results in evasion.

Instead of simply correcting your children when they make mistakes, encourage them to reflect on how they can improve in the future.

Instead of expressing disappointment, consider proposing a plan to ensure homework completion.

Rewritten: Teaching kids that they can overcome obstacles, even if they don't succeed initially.

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