Esther Perel, a therapist, believes that this is the worst piece of relationship advice.

A widely held belief in modern dating is that it's essential to be completely satisfied with oneself before forming a relationship.

Renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel considers it one of the worst pieces of relationship advice.

"Perel believes that it is only in the presence of others that one can truly understand their own self. She argues that there has been an overemphasis on the significance of the self, which has led to a neglect of the social context in which it exists."

Social media has not emphasized the relationship aspect of psychotherapy, according to Perel.

Perel argues that by isolating oneself in the pursuit of self-actualization, individuals may hinder their own growth and limit the potential for connection with others.

'It's probably time to put the 'other' back in the picture'

While emphasizing authenticity isn't inherently negative, it can lead to discomfort and distance from certain situations.

Perel suggests that tension in a relationship can indicate a potentially healthy partnership, rather than a need for more boundaries or being triggered.

"Perel suggests that therapy should focus on both self-awareness and other-awareness, including self-realization, self-fulfillment, self-care, and self-image."

'Being with someone else will teach you a lot about how to be with yourself.'

Someone without a strong identity can sabotage a potential partnership, according to Lisa Marie Bobby, a relationship psychologist and founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching in Denver.

Bobby states that in order to develop healthy, high-quality relationships, one must first understand themselves and take responsibility for their emotions.

She frequently encounters clients who struggle with dating due to their lack of awareness about what triggers their emotions.

"Bobby explains that because they are not emotionally connected and lack self-regulation skills, it can be challenging to understand and empathize with others' emotions."

Instead of trying to understand the other's perspective and work through the discomfort, they lash out or walk away.

Being in a relationship involves dealing with difficult emotions, according to Perel. Additionally, avoiding other people can limit your growth and opportunities.

"Being with someone else will teach you a lot about how to be with yourself," she remarks.

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