Rewritten headline: If you consistently use these six phrases, you'll be mentally stronger than most people.

Over the course of 30 years, I have studied what makes individuals, particularly leaders, mentally resilient. Through my research, I have found that mental fortitude can be developed by working on six key mental abilities.

• Confidence
• Fortitude
• Boldness
• Decision-making
• Goal-focus
• Messaging (which is about showing up positive-minded and engaged)

To build these muscles easily, be mindful of the words you use when communicating with others and yourself.

If you frequently say these six phrases, you're mentally stronger than most.

1. 'I'm enough'

It's natural to feel like you're not enough when you get caught up in comparisons to others.

Our differences can actually help us achieve success instead of being a hindrance.

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The only meaningful comparison is between your current self and your past self. The only crucial inquiry is whether you are progressing.

Mentally strong people remind themselves of this to bolster their confidence muscle.

2. 'What possibilities does this setback present?'

Helping yourself and others focus on opportunities in adversity is a key component of mental strength.

We often concentrate on the negative consequences of adversity, such as the loss of time, money, progress, self-confidence, our sense of self, and our job.

Focusing on what remains and the new opportunities that arise in the face of adversity is the hallmark of mentally strong individuals.

3. 'Am I letting myself dream big?'

Those with the strongest mental fortitude tend to think grandly. They have granted themselves permission to do so and inspire others to do the same.

We are frequently overwhelmed with our daily responsibilities, priorities, and distractions, making it challenging to pursue our dreams. We often believe that big things only happen to others and not to us.

To develop a strong, toned boldness muscle, you must let go of your inhibitions and believe that you are capable of achieving great things. You must believe that you are deserving of success and that thinking big and being bold will help you become a more accomplished version of yourself.

4. 'What's the cost of indecision?'

The mentally strong are known for their decisiveness. They are not hindered by the fear of making the wrong decision or being paralyzed by it. They understand the importance of making quick decisions and the consequences of delaying them.

A renowned rock musician once expressed regret, "By not deciding, you've already made a choice."

Choosing not to decide can result in increased costs and resource depletion as you pursue multiple paths simultaneously.

5. 'Am I controlling the controllables?'

To achieve your goals, you need mental strength.

Focusing on things beyond your control can derail your progress towards your objective. Performing a "Control Check" can help.

Rewritten: What are the setbacks that could hinder your progress towards your goal? | Setbacks | Systems | | --- | --- | | Lack of resources | Budgeting and resource management | | Time constraints | Time management and prioritization | | Technical difficulties | Technical support and backup plans | | Health issues | Health management and self-care | | Personal conflicts | Communication and conflict resolution |

Then, circle only the potential setbacks you can control.

In the "Systems" column, list all the processes, procedures, and structures you can put in place to overcome the challenges you circled that you can do something about.

I have the option to do this.

Gratitude is the key to re-energizing when job duties become overwhelming.

To avoid negative thoughts when I have to travel for work, I reframe my mindset by saying "I get to do this" instead of "I have to do this." For example, "I soon get to be on stage, delivering a keynote address and sharing valuable insights and inspiration with my audience."

I remind myself of the benefits of being a speaker and writer, and maintain a positive, energetic outlook throughout the day.

Scott Mautz is a well-known speaker, trainer, and LinkedIn Learning instructor. He was previously a senior executive at Procter & Gamble, where he oversaw several of the company's largest multi-billion-dollar businesses. He is the author of "The Mentally Strong Leader: Develop the Skills to Control Your Emotions, Thoughts, and Actions." Connect with him on LinkedIn.

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