Renowned author Brené Brown reveals the 2-word exercise she employs to initiate gatherings.
In two words, how do you feel?
According to bestselling author and leadership researcher Adam Grant, the more common, open-ended version of the icebreaker "How's everyone feeling?" often results in uninspiring answers. This was discussed on Simon Sinek's podcast, "A Bit of Optimism," earlier this month.
Brown stated that the two-word version prompts honest answers and encourages people to see each other as humans first, co-workers second. Common answers include "anxious" and "tired," or someone describing their mentality as "vacation brain," she added.
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"In the beginning, check-ins were like generators of grace, according to Brown," he stated.
During a meeting, if someone expresses anxiety and overwhelm, Brown will acknowledge their feelings before moving on to the next person. After the meeting, she will check in on their well-being.
"What does my support look like today?" she asked.
You can't get away with 'fine'
An exercise consisting of two words can convey emotions that may necessitate a more extensive explanation, according to Brown. In a recent meeting, an organization's co-CEO, despite exceeding the word limit, stated "duct tape" and "glitter."
She comprehended the implication, responding with: "Barely holding it together."
Sinek suggested that the check-in is an effective strategy as it allows individuals to share their honest two-word assessment of how they're feeling, which can help others determine if they're feeling sharp or off their game.
"You can't get away with 'fine,'" said Sinek.
Juliette Han, a neuroscientist and adjunct assistant professor at Columbia Business School, says people with high emotional intelligence use the phrase "Let me know how you feel about it" in the workplace.
Expressing that eight-word phrase can provide an opportunity for the other person to express their thoughts, to any extent they feel comfortable, Han shared with CNBC Make It last month.
"Han stated that emotionally intelligent individuals understand the importance of allowing individuals to recognize their emotions on their own terms while also providing support and being prepared to listen whenever the other person is ready to share their thoughts and feelings."
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