"Avoid clichéd reasons": 3 phrases to steer clear of during a breakup.

Breaking up with a romantic partner can be difficult, as it requires finding the right balance between being assertive and compassionate.

According to Lisa Marie Bobby, a psychologist and founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching, people who are conflict avoidant often struggle with being honest about their reasons for ending a relationship. Instead, they may provide a reason that they believe will cause the least amount of upset.

This approach, while done with good intentions, can be both irritating and hurtful to your partner.

Bobby says that having an authentic conversation about what led you to come to this conclusion is an expression of true love and caring.

Here are three phrases to avoid when ending a romantic relationship.

Currently, I am not ready for a romantic commitment.

"Avoid engaging in excuses that obscure the truth," Bobby says.

I'm not in a position to be in a relationship at this time.

""Bobby claims that the reasons are nonsense and the other person will ask many questions," the sentence can be rewritten."

Rewritten: Expressing excuses may give the other person the impression that you might want to be with them in the future.

Bobby says, "The meta message is 'If and when my circumstances change, this relationship could have an opportunity,' but it doesn't leave the door of possibility open in the other person's mind."

2. 'I hope we can still be friends.'

According to Rachel DeAlto, a relationships and communication expert at Match Group, breaking up involves redrawing boundaries.

Suggesting or promising friendship can sometimes make it difficult to follow through.

"DeAlto warns that directly transitioning into a friendship may be unrealistic and harmful, particularly for those seeking reconciliation."

3. 'You deserve better.'

During a breakup, it's important to share your reasoning behind your decision rather than simply stating that the other person deserves better.

"According to DeAlto, this can be perceived as insincere, patronizing, and a way to avoid taking responsibility for the breakup, as it does not offer a clear, honest explanation for ending the relationship."

Bobby believes that making excuses takes away someone's opportunity to discover more about themselves.

She explains that in these conversations, the other person may receive feedback or insights that will aid in their growth and development.

While breakup discussions can be uncomfortable, they don't have to be dishonest.

"Bobby emphasizes the importance of authenticity and transparency, urging others to avoid using clichéd explanations."

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