According to a parenting expert who studied over 200 children, kids who exhibit these 6 behaviors possess high emotional intelligence.

We desire numerous things for our kids, including good health, achievement, fulfilling relationships, and a sense of purpose in life.

To increase the likelihood of happiness and success, we can aid in the development of emotional intelligence skills.

What are the six key behaviors of children with high emotional intelligence, as observed by a conscious parenting researcher and coach who has studied over 200 kids?

1. They recognize non-verbal cues

They possess the ability to understand others' emotions through observation of their body language and facial expressions.

Sarah was unusually quiet today. When I asked if she wanted to play, she declined. I suspect she was upset about something.

Discussing emotions with others through reflective conversations can improve their ability to read emotions and increase their confidence in understanding people.

What was the mood of your classmate today?

2. They show empathy and compassion

They not only recognize others' emotions but also demonstrate genuine concern and provide assistance.

During a playdate, your child notices her friend looking upset because he didn't win a game. She then approaches him and says, "You played really well! Would you like to play something else together?"

The most effective way for parents to instill empathy in their child is by demonstrating it themselves.

If Mrs. Brady is unwell, you could say, "I'm concerned about her health. Let's visit her and offer assistance if needed."

3. They can name their emotions

Emotionally intelligent kids are great at sharing their feelings.

Recognizing and communicating emotions is evident when your child says, "I feel frustrated because I can't solve this puzzle" or "I'm happy because I helped my friend fix her toy."

Labeling emotions is a skill that can be developed by consciously identifying and expressing them. For example, instead of simply feeling disappointed or overwhelmed, try saying "I feel disappointed that I can't find my keys" or "I'm a bit overwhelmed with all the work I have to do."

It's okay to feel sad sometimes.

4. They are adaptable

A child who can handle changes in routines and disappointing news with calmness is demonstrating emotional maturity.

Instead of getting upset or throwing a tantrum when an outdoor picnic is cancelled due to rain, your child calmly accepts the change and suggests having an indoor picnic.

To develop this skill, it begins with the parent's own behavior. Demonstrating flexibility and calmness in our reactions sets an example for our children to follow.

What are some alternatives we can consider?

5. They are good listeners

Emotionally intelligent kids can pick up on subtle cues that others may miss.

As you share your day with them, they are not merely listening but actively engaged and attentive to the emotions conveyed through your words. They respond with inquiries and display genuine interest.

To develop this skill, when your child shares a story, give them your undivided attention. Maintain eye contact, pause whatever you're doing, and stoop down to their level. Reflect and echo back their words to demonstrate that you're truly listening.

6. They can self-regulate

Kids with high emotional intelligence can manage intense emotions, remain composed during challenging situations, and make sound decisions.

Instead of becoming frustrated when your child loses a game round, a child with good self-regulation skills might take a deep breath and approach the game with a positive attitude.

They keep cool and carry on, even after disappointment.

Encouraging children to resist their own "tantrums," such as yelling or overreacting, is a fundamental way to build this skill.

Rewritten sentence: "When you feel overwhelmed, take a deep breath and count to 10."

Kids will remember our graceful handling of tough times.

As a certified conscious parenting coach and founder of The Connected Discipline Method, Reem Raouda helps parents of strong-willed children. Follow her on Instagram and TikTok.

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