A breakup expert has identified three patterns of the "chronically single," according to a report.

Do you feel like you've been single for a really long time?

The phrase "chronically single" has gained popularity on TikTok, with some videos attracting over 10 million viewers worldwide.

Amy Chan, as reported by CNBC Make It, stated that there are two types of single individuals: those who are content with their single status and those who are not.

Chan, who went through a heart-wrenching breakup in her 20s, is now a relationship and breakup coach, and runs two weekend retreats, "The Breakup Bootcamp" and "The Dating Bootcamp," to help others improve their dating experiences.

She is the author of "Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart" and has an online following of over 200,000 followers across TikTok and Instagram. She made over $200,000 with her business in 2023, according to CNBC Make It documents.

"Chan stated that being single can be painful for some individuals, but he believes it's better because it motivates them to try new things. However, the hardest part is when they have a good life and are not unhappy, which means there is no pain point to motivate them to step out of their comfort zone."

Although being in a partnership would be great, the possibility of rejection and the accompanying dating process make them come up with excuses and avoid it, according to Chan.

Based on her experience mentoring clients, Chan has observed three patterns in individuals who are "chronically single."

They are 'no' oriented

Through her work, Chan has observed that people who remain single for an extended period often have a tendency to say "no."

"Chan explained to CNBC Make It that many of his successful clients have a tendency to quickly dismiss potential connections without giving them a chance to grow. This is because they have a clear idea of what they want, but may not necessarily need, in their heads."

Chan stated in a TikTok video that they have a specific image of the person they're interacting with, and their focus is more on fulfilling their own ego rather than establishing a genuine connection.

"Being a leader may have taught you to get people to do things for you exactly as you want, but this approach doesn't translate into healthy relationships. Love doesn't thrive on harshness," she said to CNBC Make It.

They sabotage their relationships

"People who are chronically single often sabotage their relationships by investing in unavailable individuals," said Chan.

""They often blame the city they're in or make generalizations about all guys or girls without examining the root cause of their behavior. A common reason for this pattern is that it's a convenient way to avoid intimacy," she explained."

Chan believes that singles who remain single for a long time may have an "emotional type," even if they claim not to have one.

"Chan explained that it could be anxiety or unavailability, but ultimately, it's an emotional experience that is unique to each person."

They don't put themselves out there

Chan has observed that individuals who remain single often lack the effort to make space in their lives for dating.

""Love happens when you least expect it," said Chan, which is why people often don't put themselves out there in relationships."

"I've heard many people say, 'Well, you know, it'll happen when it happens,' and I respond, 'But you work in a women's facial clinic and then go straight home. At what point is love going to hit you? When you're watching TV?'"

Chan stated that it's almost an excuse for not taking risks because they've become so comfortable with being single.

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